I know what it is like to struggle with your challenging child. I am not sure what diagnose your child has or maybe you don’t even have one but I do know what you are thinking and feeling.
I know the thoughts
“I can’t cope”
“I can’t do this”
I know the way you search on the internet about their condition.
I know how you search for ways to make things better.
I know the way you blame yourself for the way that your child is.
I know the way you are so desperate for help and each time you go to the behaviour class or the specialist you are hoping for a MIRACLE. Something that will help your child and make your life easier. All these well meaning specialists tell you to do this and this but it doesn’t work like that.
I know the way you think at times when you can’t even stand your own child, and the guilt you feel for even thinking this way.
I know the way you isolate yourself because of your child condition’s because people look at you and judge you.
I know the way you keep everything bottled up.
I know the way you feel hopeless and powerless.
I know the way you think that you are a bad parent and even a FAILURE.
I know the way you try to discipline your child but it doesn’t do any good because they have no concept of consequences.
I know all this HOW? Because this is what I have gone through for 19 years.
All the people who tell you it will get easier. BS
Each child is unique and you just have to work around them and find a system that you can manage.
And the TWO most important things
1. LEARN TO PICK YOUR BATTLES.
2. LEARN TO LOOK AFTER YOURSELF BY FINDING HEALTHY COPING MECHANISMS.