When Acceptance is gone – then rejection, shame and betrayal knock on the door of “your mind” seeking admittance.
The Fruit of Rejection and Reasons for Rejection
Just imagine you were a tree and the roots going down into the ground were deeply rooted with years upon years of rejection and self rejection. How can your tree really thrive in life? It will be tossed back and forth with the wind.
Here are some examples of what happens to you when you are running with these roots of rejection.
Inability to Receive Love.
When someone who is significant in your life has rejected you, it makes you feel unworthy. It establishes a root belief that if you are unworthy, you are unlovable; therefore, you are unable to receive love.
Inability to Love Others.
The root of rejection destroys your ability to trust others. You are reluctant to allow yourself to get into close relationship with others. Obviously, if you can’t get close to another person, you can’t consider loving that person.
After you have experienced rejection by someone significant in your life, you don’t know whom you can trust. Subconsciously, you walk through life as if you were walking on eggs. You always expect betrayal or criticism to be right around the corner.
Because you feel vulnerable in the presence of others, you feel there is safety in isolation. Your natural tendency, therefore, is to withdraw from the mainstream of society.
Your inability to trust others breeds suspicion of everyone. You never really know when you might be rejected again.
Because you feel unworthy, you naturally feel inferior to others. This inferiority is reflected in your relationships and in your work.
Social gatherings are painful to you because you feel you are surrounded by superior people who look upon you as you look upon yourselves. Although this is not true, your mind-set will not allow you to think differently.
Fear of Failure.
You are convinced you are incapable of accomplishing anything as well as others can accomplish them. Your low expectation of yourself is usually reflected in your willingness to stay in jobs or relationships that require little of you.
Fear of Man.
Because you look upon everyone else as superior to yourself, you rarely initiate anything on your own for fear of being criticized. You prefer to be told what to do and when and how to do it. Your only problem from that point is to follow directions accurately.
Fear of Rejection.
The fear of rejection keeps you from ever being your real self. You are always in a performance mode, hoping to please others.
You consider yourself to be a misfit, with no place in society, not belonging to anything or anyone.
Because you fear reality, you have a tendency to live in a world of your own fantasy. You are safe in this world of fantasy, never challenged, always victorious. This is an obvious form of withdrawal. It can only generate an unhealthy personality.
Rejection will often lead to low self esteem, self blame, rebellion, isolation, loneliness and self pity and you just seem to go into a downward spiral. Self pity then leads to misery, misery then leads to depression, depression leads to despair and despair leads to hopelessness.
But today I am here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way!!!!!
This was not your fault, I will say that again this was not YOUR FAULT, there was probably a lot of factors which contributed to all this rejection maybe you were neglected when you were a child, bullied, abused, rejected for jobs, rejected from relationships and eventually you started to reject yourself. Rejection hurts. But it’s impossible to avoid it altogether. In fact, you don’t want to: People who become too afraid of rejection might hold back from going after something they want. Sure, they avoid rejection, but they’re also 100% guaranteed to miss out on what they want but won’t try for.
REJECTION V ACCEPTANCE
Ok shit happened but you have a responsibility TODAY, either stay hurt or get back up.
Learning to deal with rejection, to get past the hurt and bounce back builds inner confidence. Knowing that you can deal with whatever happens to you gives you the confidence to start life over again. Accept things for the way they are, you can’t change the past but you can CREATE A NEW FUTURE.
Remember “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”
Now picture your tree now deeply rooted on a foundation of self love and acceptance, how different will your tree be? Strong, Stable, Secure, Immovable.
Well this is possible for you Today, “Right Now” in this moment when you decide to start treating yourself as a very valuable person who deserves amazing things in life. Regardless of your past mistakes, failings, inadequacies, today is the day when you have the power to draw a line in the sand and say enough is enough I am better than this. My life is going to account for something, while I have breathe in my body I can and I will learn to LOVE and ACCEPT me warts and all, because the more I LOVE ME, the more I can love others.
REMEMBER PAIN MAKES YOU STRONGER. TEARS MAKE YOU BRAVER. HEARTBREAK MAKES YOU WISER. SO THANK THE PAST FOR A BETTER FUTURE
AT ANY MOMENT THE DECISION YOU MAKE CAN CHANGE THE COURSE OF YOUR LIFE FOREVER
SO WHAT’S IT GOING TO BE SELF-REJECTION OR SELF ACCEPTANCE??????
The meaning of “accept” is – take, receive, believe and agree, so once you start to accept yourself that’s when you will finally experience all the inner peace, joy and love that money can’t buy.
Remember effective living is not measured as much by what we accomplish as by what we overcome in order to accomplish it
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