Your Addiction is Not your Problem
IF YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR TRUE VALUES, PREPARE FOR PAIN
The only way we can ever feel happy and fulfilled in the long term is to live in accordance with our true values. If we don’t, we’re sure to experience intense pain. So often, people develop habitual patterns of behaviour that frustrate or could potentially destroy them: smoking, drinking, overeating, cleaning, over exercising, sex, abusing drugs, attempting to control or dominate others, watching hour upon hour of television, overthinking, worrying (yes we can get addicted to our CRAZY MONKEY)and so on.
What’s the real problem here? These behaviors are really the result of frustration, anger, and emptiness that people feel because they don’t have a sense of fulfillment in their lives. They’re trying to distract themselves from those empty feelings by filling the gap with the behavior that produces a “quick fix” change of state. This behavior becomes a pattern, and people often focus on changing the behavior itself rather than dealing with the cause. They don’t just have a drinking problem; they have a values problem. The only reason they’re drinking is to try to change their emotional state because they don’t like the way they feel, moment by moment. They don’t know what’s most important to them in their lives.
The consolation is that whenever we do live by our highest standards, whenever we fulfil and meet our values, we feel immense joy. We don’t need the excess food or drink. We don’t need to put ourselves into a stupor, because life itself becomes so incredibly rich without these excesses. Distracting ourselves from such incredible heights would be like taking sleeping pills on Christmas morning.
The root of most addictive behaviours is a lack of love being received by that person. Many of us have been damaged emotionally by rejection, abandonment, abuse, etc., and thereby our capacity to receive love has been reduced. Painful memories from our past often result in broken heartedness by which the centre of love within is shattered never again to be the same source of giving and receiving love. Unless you CHOOSE to open your heart and let it heal.
What exactly is an addiction?
An addiction is formed when we try to use something other than God to meet our need to be loved or compensate for a lack of purpose/fulfilment/excitement, etc. When our ability to receive love into our hearts is hindered, we will feel like something is missing, and seek to fill that void with something else. When that thing, whatever it might be, fills that void, we grow to love it because it’s meeting a need. Over time, we establish a relationship with that thing, and when it comes time to depart, it’s like breaking up a relationship. That’s why addictions are so addictive; We’ve relied on that thing to meet a need and we’ve established a relationship with it. Now when it’s time to break up the love, it isn’t so easy to say goodbye.
One common problem that we see when we try to deal with addictions is where we give up one addiction successfully, only to find ourself in another addiction. We might quit drinking only to start overeating, for example. We might think we’re finding victory, but all we’re really doing is trading one addiction for another addiction. This is because something has to fill the love-void in our hearts, and if it’s not one thing, it will be another.
My AIM is to help you discover the root
To discover the root of your addiction, you need my help. Many times we are in denial about the pain we are feeling. Figuring out what is the root of a bondage, is all about asking the right questions, and that is especially important when it comes to uprooting an addiction. From my experience all addictions have to do with painful memories which result in broken heartedness. When your heart gets hurt the center of love within is shattered and this causes you to close it off, making it virtually impossible to be the same source of giving and receiving love. But the only person it causes the most damage to is YOU, by thinking you are “protecting” yourself from being hurt again you keep yourself closed off to LIFE ITSELF and locked in your self destructive pattern.
Dealing with self-worth issues is an important key to breaking down the walls which keep you from feeling loved. Only when you are ready to finally let go of your addiction can the healing start.
You really need to start loving and accepting yourself unconditionally even with your addiction, because withholding self love from yourself is actually causing you more pain.
YOU NEED ME TO TELL YOU RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW YOU THAT ARE VERY VALUABLE JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, AND THAT YOU ARE WORTHY OF GOOD THINGS.
Learning to love and accept yourself is one of the most challenging things to do, but with my help and guidance you can.
PLEASE REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT YOUR ADDICTION, THIS IS NOT THE REAL YOU, THE REAL YOU IS YOUR SPIRIT. ONCE THE “ROOT CAUSE” IS ADDRESSED YOUR ADDICTION WILL SLOWLY MELT AWAY AND YOU CAN FINALLY BE YOU AGAIN. THE PERSON GOD CREATED YOU TO BE.
P.S You were not born with an addiction, you acquired it over the years and the longer you have had it, the more of a stronghold it has become in your life. Hence the harder it is to LET IT GO. But answer me this, if I handed you a piece of hot coal, would you keeping holding it in your hand? I WOULD SAY NOT.
Developing an addiction is not your fault, you are not a bad person and there is nothing wrong with you. You were only trying to protect your HEART, and no matter what wrong things you have done, forgiveness is possible along with a clean slate to start your life over again. You have so much untapped POTENTIAL which I will help you “FIND IT”.
It is all a matter of FOCUS, because what you focus on GROWS.
So what are you waiting for sign up to either of my 2 online programmes
BREAK FREE (Freedom round emotional eating) if you have problems with food or
CHANGE YOUR THINKING CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Both of these programmes have been designed to help you heal internally and to free up the burden of emotional pain which drains our creative energy so that you can take control back of your life.
or alternatively you can opt for a one to one mind detox session
or enrol in a 1,3 or 6 month empowerment programme
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